They're scared. I'm scared.

[beetiger]

I guess there's something positive about the fact that the President and the Pope, two major world leaders, feel like they have to talk about gay marriage. It means things are happening, and the conservative world is nervous. But it kind of kicks me out of the lazy mindset I have now and again, the mindset that says that we're nearly there on queer acceptance, and that church and state really are separated just like it says in the books.

I asked sythyry whether we could move to Canada soon. He reminded me that we're already married.

I actually have my ministerial credentials in NY now, through the Pagan Temple to which I belong. One of the dreams I have for my lifetime is to be able to officiate at a legal gay marriage here.

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[read-alicia.livejournal.com]

As long as government and private institutions recognize the concept of family (for example, letting only "family" in to see a sick person in the hospital), we need an official way to include people with whom one is in a relationship as family. We can't all get certified as ministers in order to gain access to the ones we love, though the thought is intriguing.

I was also thinking about this case as well, in which a lesbian couple in Texas were married since one of them is trans. It made me think about the tradeoff between accepting the government's identity in order to get their approval. Of course, I know a few people who just happen to fit the male/female category close enough that they were able to marry so it does work out sometimes. I wonder if they would want to re-marry if the government expanded their definition of who can marry.