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projectmothra asked a question in the car today."Is a king size bed the biggest bed?" We tell him it's the biggest common bed, that there's a less common one called a California King.
"But what if you want a bigger bed for more people?"
"I guess you have to push beds together or get a special bed made custom."
"What if six people want to be in the same bed?"
"Then I guess you could just push two beds together."
I look at him curiously, after he goes on about the six-person bed for a while. I can't help but ask. "Who are these six people who want to share a bed?"
"Well, what if there are two people --like a husband and wife -- and each of them has a friend, and each of their friends has a husband?"
I'm not sure exactly what this says about how we are raising him.
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(This story is wonderful!)
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This is adorable.
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... or this might just be one of those genetic "I don't really understand guys" things...
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I typed that out, and realized that I'd written a middle-of-the-revolution comment: in my universe, someone of any gender can have a wife or husband (though, as my legislature continues to talk very loud and very fast and get nothing done, they may have to cross the state line for the actual wedding), but for a lot of people, "husband" still means "man a woman is married to" rather than "man someone is married to." But even if we stipulate the more limited meaning, there are as many men in that bed as women.
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I understand where you are coming from. I agree with the statement, in my own confused way. I also am not sure exactly who is in charge of Mothra's education, or how much exposure to GBTL culture has occured. Starting with the default assumptions children are drilled with from preschool should be a safe place to assume.
While I never intended for the pairing to be more then 3-3 of either sex (Assuming we don't included third sexed individuals like me), I make note that it's woman designates in bed first, and then their partners, as an afterthought in a long chain of thought. It's extraordinary thinking for a child Mothra's age. It also seems to be Masculine Centered line of thought, which is the only real comment I had.
... and I've probably offended again, and I'm sorry. I know I probably should be really open to all these ideas, but the idea of becoming a wife, not a husband, is very very important to me, and it's going to be one of those conflicts that is going to go weirdly for me... even though I probably will never marry at this rate, anyway...
... maybe it's time we start finding new words.
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I'm perfectly happy with "spouse" and "partner" as terms--I usually use partner for my own relationships--though I've heard of people who think that "spouse" is gendered female.
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I have a Queen sized bed and I wish now we'd bought a king. While it WILL accommodate two big, beautiful women and the skinny Fox, it's never comfortable with that many people in it.
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Luckily we all like sleeping in a pile or it wouldn't work at all. There are plans in the future for trading off so that someone sleeps in the spare room a few nights.
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They need to make interlocking bed units or something. Pushing beds together is highly unsatisfactory in my opinion. Spent too many nights in hotels where "king bed" means "two single beds pushed together with a single tacky headboard mounted to the wall above them" and ended up falling between the two halves.
-Alexandra
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:c)
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-Alexandra
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Not too long ago, my daughter told me that you couldn't have more than one boyfriend/girlfriend. I have no idea where she got that as she's seen that both me and her dad share bedrooms with other people sometimes (though so far, there have been no "oops" moments, knock on wood). Then, just the other day, she said she wished she had more parents. Where those other parents come from if we're only allowed one partner, I have no idea. ;)
(I *think* the one partner comment was just a fleeting thought and not actually what she believes, but I do know her grandparents are pretty vocal about their "one spouse" beliefs when it comes up). :P
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Giggles.
I think you're raising him just fine. My only concern would be anything he might say that would bring CPS by, but as long as you live in a very liberal community you're probably safe.
Trickster