Reputation
Jun. 13th, 2006 10:49 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
beetigerRecent events of various sorts have started me thinking about reputation. Lots of people are "known quantities" in certain groups and subcultures. There's some generally accepted knowledge about them (which may or may not be true), whether it's that they are crazy, or that they flirt a lot but don't really mean it, or that they are ridiculously generous, or flaky, or that they give good hugs, or some sort of old story that means that even someone new to the community gets some sense of something to expect from them, even before they meet them.
I probably have some sort of a reputation, in some of the communities I'm in. I've been hanging around long enough, and even though I'm not a super high profile person, I'm not the lowest profile one either. The poly, pagan, and furry communities are all very well known for this sort of thing, and the "mommy circuit" around here does a ton of it as well. The odd thing is, though, that I'm really utterly unaware of my own reputation. I have *no idea* what proceeds me in any of the groups I spend time with. *No idea* what people might joke about when they talk about me. *No idea* what someone might get warned about if they are planning to meet me. And somehow today, I'm thinking that that's a little odd.
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I probably have some sort of a reputation, in some of the communities I'm in. I've been hanging around long enough, and even though I'm not a super high profile person, I'm not the lowest profile one either. The poly, pagan, and furry communities are all very well known for this sort of thing, and the "mommy circuit" around here does a ton of it as well. The odd thing is, though, that I'm really utterly unaware of my own reputation. I have *no idea* what proceeds me in any of the groups I spend time with. *No idea* what people might joke about when they talk about me. *No idea* what someone might get warned about if they are planning to meet me. And somehow today, I'm thinking that that's a little odd.
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Date: 2006-06-13 06:47 pm (UTC)BeeT, I don't know your circles well enough to say what your reputation is, but I do know I once went searching to see what mine was. It was astonishing how differently others viewed me from how I viewed myself. Initially I made quite some effort to "correct" their views, but at some point I realized what they thought I was still wasn't truly me. Also, sometimes I would have rather liked to be the person they saw! So eventually I quit worrying about it. The only constants I found were: those who disliked me wouldn't give me any information, and those who did like me were going to see me from a very interestingly different perspective.
Dunno if that helps -- just my two cents' worth. :)