Sitting here on the fringe with my kid, looking at the view

[beetiger]

While I was out in Florida taking my kid to Disney World, a totally canonical American family activity, I got email from Marie, the woman who runs the Sampler project I was raving about. She'd been receiving a number of emails, LJ comments in her community, and an anonymous return of one of the pins I sent for the May Sampler, which had this design. I'd cleared them with her before sending, as she does in fact reserve the right to not accept submissions that she thinks might be offensive. She didn't believe they were. However, some people, or maybe someone and zir posse, did. I can't see the comments, as she deleted them, but they were apparently very inflammatory. When she physically got the return, she decided to contact me in case the people had also been contacting me directly. (They hadn't.)

After a friendly if somewhat confused email from me in response, she agreed to let me keep contributing to the Sampler, though she suggested I not preview my items on the LJ community. ("That might not be good.")

She did send me a summary of the complaints, as follows:
1) satanic symbolism
2) items inappropriate for a child
3) their christian ethics being insulted
4) the business name promotes the demonization of children


Usual policy for the Sampler is that if you receive something not to your liking, you should pass it on or trade it. If it's something you really think no one should have, just throw it out and say "Eww" or something.

This is really a trendy arty community, and I really thought hard to figure out what might have a high "cute" factor even if you weren't pagan.

Then I wake up this morning to find my friends' page splattered all over with this case from Indiana where as part of a divorce settlement, the custodial parents of a boy aren't allowed to teach him their Wiccan beliefs -- when this was not otherwise an issue in the divorce settlement, just the judge's personal thing.

I keep trying to get my head around the idea that people think I'm dangerous to kids, just by existing. I start to get worried that I'm setting my little boy up for trouble, as soon as he opens his little mouth to talk about his day to day life. But when he looks down at his shirt and says "Cat! Star!" and laughs a lot, I just can't see any peril there. And the fact that someone can makes me profoundly sad.

Comments

[collie13.livejournal.com]

...or states their 'truth' is the only right one, it becomes about your beliefs being right and theirs wrong and then it's a defensive position.

After some thought, I'd have to say I slightly disagree here -- it is only a defensive position if you allow yourself to be placed there. I think Beetiger's handling this just right: some personal reflection, some checking to make sure she is doing what she believes is right and no one's being harmed by it... a moment of sadness for those intolerant others, and then you get on with your life.

Their ranting has made them look foolish. Bee's calm replies has made her the reasonable one. It's public behavior like Beetiger's that allows the rest of us to increasingly be more free and open in our life choices -- and as such, I feel it's also our responsibility to support Bee all we can.

Beetiger, from the bottom of my heart: thank you. You're currently in an unhappy-making spot, but you're quietly and calmly sticking to your ideological guns. Please let us know if there's anything we can do to help you too, to return you that assistance -- because in the long run it will help all of us.

[elven-wolf.livejournal.com]

I agree. Beetiger, from her update, is handling this very well as far as reaction goes. It's the complainer that put themselves in a defensive stance that wasn't really necessary. I was thinking of them when I talked about the defensiveness. How anything that contradicts their beliefs is seen as a personal attack. Like someone said further down the page, there's been a lot of propaganda that equates non-Christian with satanic, and a lot of people buy into that.

You're better at explaining it all than I am. :[

[collie13.livejournal.com]

You're sweet to say that, and thank you. Mostly I just want to be sure Beetiger doesn't feel alone on this -- being the front runner of any change can be painful. I don't know how to help her, but I'm sure I'm not alone in wanting to be of assistance, and hopefully if there's anything we can do, or that she needs, she'll let us know.

[elven-wolf.livejournal.com]

Yes, what you said, ditto that. ;D I'm a knucklehead but if I can help anything in any way, I'm all for it.